The Self-Storied Life℠ is a year-long life coaching experience that ushers you through deep inner work, worldly exploration, and methods of expressing yourself that you’ve been avoiding for too long. Experience profoundly supportive evolution, mindful behavioral change, and resilience of mind, heart, and spirit. Starts at $400/mo. Learn More »
Deepen Into the Soul of Your Being
Have you ever defined “success” for yourself?
For me, the mark of a successful year is a year in which I feel as though I have deepened into two years’ worth of living and growing in just one.
I’m not talking about “doing for the sake of doing,” or “productivity,” or hollow accomplishments, either.
I’m talking about how deeply I’ve personally efforted, and challenged myself to learn and grow, and defied my comfort zones and self-limiting beliefs, and expanded into what feels like a more real and true version of myself.
My definition of success is a life that feels fully and well “lived-in.”
I feel like I have succeeded when I look back over one single calendar year and it feels like I have had two years’ worth of growth, living, and expanding in one.
And in 2019, I can honestly say that I feel as though I have lived two years’ worth of life in one.
What would it feel like for you to experience two years’ worth of deepening into your living, exploring, expanding, creating, and sharing — in just one calendar year?
But how do you do it? Where do you begin?
The journey begins by embracing what I call The Self-Storied Life.
“Dave brings deep experience and devotion to his teachings. What a gift to study with such a kind, smart and compassionate man!”Jennifer Louden, Best-Selling Author and Teacher
“I’ve known Dave as a teacher of writing for nearly a decade — I can’t recommend working with him highly enough!”Jenny Blake, Author of Pivot and Life After College
What is The Self-Storied Life?
The Self-Storied Life℠ is a year-long coaching experience where you are guided through the deep inner work, worldly exploration, and methods of expressing yourself to experience the equivalent of two years’ worth of personal growth and life experiences in one.
We will holistically examine all aspects and interplays of your life, from work and creativity to business, income, relationships, love, service, and altogether what it means to live a full and “Self-Storied” life, inside and out.
I’m challenging clients to consider what it would feel like to experience two years’ worth of growth, experience, and expression in one.
What would it feel like to experience two years’ worth of emotional and spiritual growth in a single calendar year?
In The Self-Storied Life℠, you are the curriculum, the content, and the process.
A blend of supportive coaching calls and guided written reflections to create gradual shifts and changes over time, The Self-Storied Life℠ applies a wide spiritual philosophy based in far-ranging studies on journaling and creative exercises as pragmatic tools for slow self-examination in an attention-deficit age.
Experience profoundly supportive evolution, mindful behavioral change, and resilience of mind, heart, and spirit. is a monthly, 1-on-1 coaching experience for purpose-driven people who feel slightly askew from living the fully-expressed life that they desire, and could use some personal support for examining and exploring the qualities, values, questions, and approaches that could support living their best lives.
Over one year, you’ll explore — and express — your way into what feels equivalent to two full years’ worth of heightened self-knowledge, a codified set of personal values, and a slew of written artifacts to help you embrace a more satisfyingly “lived-in” life, inside and out.
“Is The Self-Storied Life for me?”
The Self-Storied Life is designed for seekers of self-knowledge who understand the power of choice, personal responsibility, and making space amidst their busy day-to-day lives — all with the intention to unearth the contents of their souls.
You understand that your values, perspectives, stories, and choices are the keys that, when illuminated and acted upon, can and will lead you toward deeper senses of fulfillment, purpose, meaning, and service in your precious life.
While The Self-Storied Life is not therapeutic in nature or intended as a healing modality in any way, Dave Ursillo’s coaching style and process take integrated, holistic approaches that blend Western behavioral psychology, neuroscientific understandings, and Eastern spiritual paradigms to guide, empower, and inform your deepest yet self-work.
You will conscientiously explore and shift everyday actions, thoughts, and words to help your “everyday journey” feel more aligned to the life’s story that you deserve to be living.
The Self-Storied Life may be for you if you…
- Are a creative, entrepreneurial, or a self-starter personality type by your nature
- Feel like you have a pressing message, idea, or calling that you are called to express into the world in the next 2 years
- Are so committed to soul expansion and personal growth that you can sometimes feel like a victim to your efforts (perhaps from pushing too hard, or in too many directions all at once)
- Have a bad habit of hiding in the shadows of their day job/responsibilities, or behind the computer screen
- Could really get going again with combinations of seenness, accountability, support, being (lovingly) challenged, and consistent encouragement from a dedicated peer
- Suspect you could learn how to self-sustain momentum and flourish under a coaching structure, guided by routine self-reflection work
- Love the idea of exploring customized journaling prompts to challenge self-limiting beliefs, rewrite stories and practice new behaviors
How The Self-Storied Life℠ Works
Dave Ursillo is considered an elite, highly accessible and engaging resource for seeing connections between ideas, words, stories, and experiences — all before distilling them down to their clearest essence.
His special talent is listening to the stories that define our experiences, self-perceptions and limiting beliefs.
A coach to therapists, doctors, CEOs, White House advisors, and beyond, Dave has worked with thousands of writers and creatives across the world, through which he developed an integrated system for helping everyday folks understand the deeper, underlying expression of fear, guilt, or shame that is preventing them from expressing their fullest selves in the world.
With The Self-Storied Life, Dave is offering an empathetic, encouraging, conscientious look into why you may be experiencing little setbacks, consistent letdowns, or frustrating regressions for your efforts to create forward-motion in life, career, relationship, or service.
Over one-hour coaching sessions, you’ll explore the core stories that are shaping your journey right now. You’ll listen back to your conversation in private, archived recordings for maximum awareness-building. Plus, you’ll get Dave’s notes and bespoke journaling prompts for reflection after each of your two sessions, written into a cohesive narrative context for lasting insights to take with you into 2020.
#1) A 1-Hour Coaching Session, Every-Other-Week, for 48 Weeks.
Depth, exploration, commitment. We engage in a potent series of recurring coaching sessions, which act as the basis for our you with a built-in structure for gentle accountability, continuous support, and deep personal support for getting your writing unstuck, for good.
#2) Each Coaching Session Summarized, Placed into Narrative Context, and Explained
After each coaching call, you receive a full session summary and recap articulated from your coach’s point of view: expertly placed into narrative context to help you precisely understand where you are in your journey, right now. You’ll chart and track major themes, anticipate trends, and stay on the front foot of learning and growth throughout your coaching.
#3) Bespoke Journaling Prompts to Guide Your Reflection, Self-Examination, and Re-Storying.
You’ll embrace the art of personal journaling as a resource, practice, and discipline in exploring your inner world. Bespoke journaling prompts are delivered after each coaching session and become your explorative focus in between calls. In your journal, your task is to develop stronger rapport to self-reflection by using the actual words and rewriting the stories that comprise your narrative understanding of self, life, and your goals.
#4) Sessions Recorded and Privately Archived For Future Listening.
Hear how you instinctively explain, understand, and commit to growth. Every audio call is recorded, archived in your personal Google Drive folder, and sent along to you within 1 day for your downloading and future re-listening. The power of listening back to your coaching sessions is that it’s like getting two coaching sessions in one: the first, you’re simply present for; the second, you hear again but in a whole new context.
“Dave taught me to think like a leader. He’s guided me to believe in myself more, and now I’m sharing more of my voice in the world.”Amy Clover, Fitness Personality
“Dave’s got this genius ability to help people deeply understand themselves and connect to the core of their own being.”Jacob Sokol, Life Coach
I’m Dave, and I’ll Guide You Through Your Experience of The Self-Storied Life.
As a lifelong student of myself, my inner world, and my avoidance, I’ve come to mark the most successful and “well lived-in” years of my life by looking back and feeling like a calendar year lasted for two years, not one.
Over many years of my last decade of life — including my work as a coach and writer, and my ongoing self-exploration practices — single years feel far longer than single years. Spans of three months feel like 5 or 6 months ago; six months feel like a full 12 months past.
Over the last decade, my work has spanned platform building as a writer, professional blogging, self-publishing 5 books, copywriting for nonprofits and businesses, storytelling for professionals, creative consulting, and teaching hundreds of workshops, seminars, classes and retreats on 4 continents for over 4,000 students.
I began my professional writing career in 2009 when I quit my job in politics and left a career in public service behind.
Disheartened to the state of politics, which seemed to be serving powerful peoples’ self-interests more than people who needed help the most, I let go of my dream to become a Presidential speechwriter someday and instead decided to start sharing my own words in my own voice with the world.
Years later, I found myself being sought out by fellow writers and creatives for support with their writing. I started to produce support materials like writing prompts for writers that inspired genuine writing to get done. So, I started an online writers’ group called The Literati Writers in 2012. For four years, we served over 300 member writers with weekly writing prompts, online workshops, monthly author interviews and more.
I’m good at getting into the heart of your story, struggles, and desires with haste from my developed intuition, deep empathy, and visioning skills, which I’ve trained through meditation, yoga, spiritual disciplines, and more.
Combined with my years’ worth of writing and my experience supporting a diverse range of creative souls across the world, in as little as a few conversations, I’ll understand the heart of your experience. I care about you, my client, and consider you a friend, not a transaction.
That’s why I’m here to help you live your Self-Storied Life.
Let’s uncover the hidden qualities of voice that make your journey much more rewarding, plus, key elements of narrative psychology and spiritual growth that will stick with you for years to come.
Begin to Live Your Self-Storied Life
Schedule Your Exploratory Conversation Now
The Self-Storied Life℠ is available to limited clients at any given time, so click below to schedule your exploratory conversation with Dave now to discuss your goals, roadblocks, and ways to support your Self-Storied Life — whether you ultimately sign up for coaching or not.
Testimonials from Clients
“My coaching sessions with Dave created a profound shift in my relationship to writing and the role that it plays in my life. I thought I was seeking someone who would ‘kick my ass’ and get me to write more often. I came away from our coaching realizing that I don’t need to pursue writing out of fear if I don’t immediately become a prolific author. Without the unnecessary suffering that writing can carry with it, I can now enjoy my writing as a form of self-expression that creates more ease in my life.”— Rolando Peraza, Freelance Writer
“I had two goals when I started my coaching: to understand my signature story and to finally start writing my first book. I not only came into a better relationship with my writing but with myself. The way Dave held space for me was incredibly powerful: intuitive, intelligent and considerate. I often joked with Dave that he was not only writing coach, but my life coach, my business coach, and my therapist, all rolled into one! Everything that I threw at him, he helped me transform into creative fuel.”— Nikki Groom, Small Business Growth Coach
“I reached out to Dave to sharpen my voice and specialization in my field. Through Dave’s coaching support and custom journaling prompts, I gained new insights and perspectives that allowed me to see patterns, blocks, and opportunities to re-story my approach and more forward. Our work together bolstered my self-confidence and my value in my professional and personal life, which in turn has led to a new direction and a higher quality of life.”— Charlotte Love, Wellness Coach and Yoga Instructor
“Dave is a true life guide — patient, wise, and encouraging. When I started my coaching, I thought I would focus my writing in support of my business goals. But as I struggled and questioned my personal motivations to write, Dave helped me figure out my true priorities — not only as a writer but in how I wanted to express myself as a person. My evolution in the writing process was evident as I went from writing that tried to ‘convince’ others to writing that existed for my own inner understanding. The end result? I now have a relationship with writing that feels like it is truly my own.”— Tom Henell, Marketing, Leadership and Customer Acquisition Professional
“When I was facing major transitions in every aspect of my life — personally, with family, and professionally — I knew that I would regret not documenting, reflecting upon, and processing the shifts through my writing. Months later, I don’t think I would be as emotionally stable and at peace with everything that happened if not for Dave and the support, space-holding, and reflection he provided in our coaching.”— Patsy Culp, Founder of ‘And Celebrate’ Event Planning and Brand Strategy
About Your Coach, Dave Ursillo
Dave Ursillo is a healer, teacher, and writer. Formerly an aspiring political speechwriter, Dave abandoned the world of public service with a dream to use his words to make a positive change in the world.
After more than 5 years of working closely with 300 writers from 12 countries, Dave developed Self-Storied Writing to teach an intuitive framework for turning personal points of resistance, struggle, or blockage into a precise pathway for effortless writing.